Wednesday, August 06, 2008
Like what the teacher always say, don't say:
"I am what I am. You have to accept me for what I am and don't expect me to change for you."
I finally know that it is very true. Sometimes, being what you are and not learning how to compromise is going to hurt a relationship. You may think that it's ok. But did you consider how others feel?
Yes, you can be angry. But I think it is wrong to vent your frustrations and anger on others. They might be in the wrong the first time. But at least they try to please you and meet your expectations the second time.
The first time, they didn't let you know that they are unable to finish their parts. Yes, it's their fault. But this time around, they made sure to let you know about it. And you are still unhappy about it.
Yasmeen is right. Projects mean frustration, anger and misunderstandings.
But I think this is going a tad too far.
Being unhappy every week will not do anyone good. I also think that being group members, the project belongs to everyone. Everyone has equal rights to voice out their comments and opinions. But this is not the case. I had to ask for permission to edit the report. And I was rejected. In an unfriendly manner. But i didn't say anything. Because, by doing so, it is not only my loss. It's everyone's loss. Cause the project belongs to everyone. Now, I have another thing to point out. But I don't have the guts. I don't want to risk angering anyone further. But this comment, it's not my own. It's teacher's suggestion. But it wasn't done. And I don't have the right to edit the report. So, yea.You may be unhappy about it. But it doesn't mean I don't feel guilty. It doesn't mean I don't feel the stress. Who won't? I bet everyone would be stressed if he knows that someone else is fuming mad at the other side of Singapore.
Someone even had to give me her password to her account just so that I can access it and retrieve the report, edit it as soon as possible, and send it.
This post has nothing against anyone. And I apologise if I offended anyone, or pissed you off. I just want to write out everything, and iron things out.
My friend and I quarreled on one occasion. We had our share of tears. But at the end of the day, we were honest with each other and I think it improved our relationship. Quarrels and unhappiness is part and parcel of life. But at the end of the day, if we choose to bottle it up, it won't do anybody good. Instead, the misunderstandings and ill feelings for each other will just build up. And eventually, we will become plastic. Fake. Which is something extremely undesirable.
If you ever read this post, don't be angry, or offended, or have any grudge against me. I am just trying to reason things out, and reflect on what went wrong in this project.
I have something to add on. This is just a project. I think the emotions felt during this period should be thrown away and forgotten. Now, I feel slightly intimidated in front of you. I don't dare to joke too much. For fear of angering you.
11:03 AM
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